tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2190785526699837051.post5891193557560473610..comments2014-02-28T14:07:21.362-05:00Comments on Are you Mr or Mrs Right?: Maintaining Individualism in MarriageShanna-Kay Britton-Edwardshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09356911690099052198noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2190785526699837051.post-77124756668267356022014-01-07T13:35:12.645-05:002014-01-07T13:35:12.645-05:00Even though I encouraged my wife at the time to ma...Even though I encouraged my wife at the time to maintain all that she used to do before meeting me, to maintain her happiness and vitality, I was the one who got fully enveloped in the marriage, and gave up most of my individualism; my friends, the Martial Arts that I enjoyed and dedicated so much time and training to make Black Belt, given up because she complained it took too much time away from time we could have spent together, ...even my confidence, self-worth, and autonomy went to shit.<br /><br /> All because of the thinking that if you love someone, you compromise to make them happy, I gave it all up, willingly. It's very difficult to see the difference between compromising on issues and wants, and compromising of yourself.<br /><br />Don't get me wrong, she's a big giver. I admire her for her heart, and how much she gives, but some people give a lot, but feels it gives them license to practically demand everything of you. Some people give, because they feel they are lacking something, and it's their way of compensating for it, to feel loved and needed.<br /><br /> The latter, are the ones who are emotionally dependent on your love and loyalty, and need to see evidence of your love, constantly, and who will drain the very life out of you.<br /><br />copyright © 01/07/2014 All rights reserved by Silent no more.<br />I represented here by the name, Silent no more, hereby declare that absolutely no one, group, organization, company, or entity, has the right to copy and, or, republish, or reuse these comments, in any way shape or form, without my written consent. Anyone interested in doing so, may contact me at marianastrenchlike@gmail.comSilent no morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05318328978445547323noreply@blogger.com