It is true that financial problems end the majority of
marriages today, but we cannot overlook sexuality and sex is high in the
ranking too. I am very positive the experts will agree.
There is a common saying that says “Good lovers are made, not
born.” Therefore, you should not expect
your married sexual relationship to happen overnight. Firstly, communication is
excellent in solving all problems in a relationship, and it also helps in the
married bed. It doesn’t matter if you’re an elderly couple, youthful couple, newlyweds
or longer married couple.
When to Discuss
Things
Refrain from discussing sexual issues as “pillow talk”
conversations. Keep the sexual
negativity outside of the bed. The bed is for fixing the problem after finding
the solution. (Smile)
If there is a need to discuss sexual issues, state the
problem and do NOT point the blame finger to your spouse. Set an appropriate time to find solutions to
your sexual intimacy. You can even make it a date; discuss it over a glass of
non-alcoholic wine.
If you buy sex advice books and don’t discuss it with your
spouse beforehand, you’re setting yourself up for creating more issues. You
might give the impression you’re blaming your spouse.
Be open to discussing your concerns, fantasies, desires,
fears etc. and do so honestly! Remember too not to forget to talk about your
likes and dislikes sexually.
I believe that they are different moods and styles of sex.
The spiritual: Where you are united in soul, body and mind,
reflecting your deepest gratitude of being together. This can be accomplished
by simply noticing the small instants within your lives.
Angry: Making love even though you are mad at each other. It
can really be healing. However, ensure you eventually discuss the problems and
have them resolved.
Comical: Have fun laughing and teasing each other in bed.
Tender: Being gentle and romantic, the style of sex that
involves candles, light touches, massage oils etc. Ministering to each other
how thoughtful God is to have created sex for the married bed.
Lusty: Having sex just because you can! This also includes
those quickies!
Married sex is a gift, one that should be shared between the
married couple and must be nurtured.
The truth is it's not easy transitioning from a single life to married life. It takes time, patience, love and respect for yourself and your partner. My husband and I, when we were courting discuss important and pertinent issues that could affect our marriage relationship both positively and negatively. Issues such as sex, money, spending habits, delegation of chores, in-laws and how to treat them in our marriage.We even found a creative and open way to do this by pretending we were celebs and having 'our people" arrange meeting dates and set agendas (we are both crazy people lol). It helps to try different scenarios of things that could affect your marriage and solve it without being biased. The discussion on expectations before marriage is very very important, it can make or break your first year together!
ReplyDeleteSo Sex- a beautiful gift from God. Oh it was and still is amazing to share that intimate part of my life with my husband, I like the gloriously naked look!!!! :-) When both of you have passion and not just love it enhances the sex trust me!
Sex is not to be taken lightly in a marriage. It doesn't means that all the time you have to have intercourse, sex involves making love and making love involves- holding hands, massages-body,hands, feet, kisses, cuddling, sending love notes/texts/e-mails, making his/her favorite meal just because.., saying I LOVE YOU, hanging out together, playing games-board or otherwise- there are countless amount of things that couples can do to spice up their lives which will in turn spice up there sex lives!!!
A couple that plays together, feels secure together, pray for each other, respect each other, care for each other, loves the other like him/herself will find that their sex life is heading in a delightful positive way.
Have merry sex with love for the other in your eyes.