When I was on the dating scene, after being girlfriend for a
while I used to put our last names together. Why? To find out if it sounded
good and had a cool ring to it, lol, Britton-Delisser, Britton-Bryan etc. None
had that wow factor I was hoping for. Britton just wasn't working with any
other surname. But, I knew for sure that
I was not going to give it up, whoever my husband was going to be could not
have any hang ups about me keeping my name. They are not many Brittons, well
not many I know of and it makes me feel very special; I wanted to remain in
this unique circle, so when I got married I became Britton-Edwards.
I took some time to ask several persons with double barrel
names; and several who changed theirs and took on their husband’s name the
reason for their choice. Among the well thought-out reasons, the following stood
out.
Changing Your Last
Name Shows Unity
Those who choose to take on their husband’s name and not
keep their maiden name did so to show unity. It gives them a sense of oneness,
the coming together to create a harmonious new family. For others, “leaving and
cleaving” also meant letting go of the name that was given by the man who was
responsible for them, since they would now belong to another man; both good
reasons for taking on their new name.
A Sense of Family Identity
The double barrel name holders kept their maiden name and
added the new name so they can hold on to their first family identity. Staying
true to their roots, building on what they know to create something new and
different.
When getting married, a lot of things need to be considered.
Your name choice is one of them. Time should be spent talking to your spouse-
to -be about this decision. Don’t assume that he or she knows your preference. Be
clear about everything, then come to a decision that both parties are happy
about.
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