It might seem like a very small point to many, but when you’re trying to get your ex back it’s really crucial. We need to remember that though we might have some conscious choices attraction and love is not one of them. To say differently, in order to connect romantically with someone the emotional connection has to be genuine. But, the attraction or connection is found on many different levels.
Without this connection it is going to be close to impossible to convince your ex you should be back in a relationship. It does happen, but typically it’s not sincere so it won’t work out. The other party often agrees to get back together because he or she has a guilty conscience. Don’t do this! You are only fooling yourself, getting back together is not your road to happiness.
You are going to have to do too much to get your ex back, it easier if a genuine attraction is created. But if it wasn’t there to begin with just forget about trying. If your master plan is to beg get rid of that idea also. Not worth it, the relationship will end pretty soon after anyways.
Don’t let your emotional side take control. It is this struggle you are having with your emotions that’s causing you to feel so anxious about getting your ex back. Get up off your Knees and stop begging! Accept what your ex-partner decides to do. Let him or her go, your ex will come back freely if there was a genuine connection.
Don’t get too worked up over your broken relationship, a lot of persons are out there going through this emotional journey. Like many before them and those that will after, getting over your ex is extremely possible.
Friday, 30 March 2012
Thursday, 29 March 2012
The Hypocrisy of Women
Women often times think they should always be praised or pampered and our male counter-parts must always be willing to climb those “rocks” for us if that’s what makes us happy. Don’t get me wrong we deserve it! However, we must be willing to climb those rocks too. If he is loving enough to give you a foot massage be willing to give one back, it’s not a “tit for tat” contract but it is at least an agreement to make each other happy!
Some of us complain that men change after the chase, no longer as sweet as they used to be. The “love text messages” have stopped and no longer do you get a phone call from your man just to say I love you. Have you stopped to consider that maybe the men in our lives feel as if they are giving too much and not getting anything in return? Did he stop sending those text messages because the last couple you didn’t reply to them like you used to?
We women complain so much about our failed relationships and how the wrong guys always show up in our lives. Words of advice don’t complain about the failed ones; use the experience to enhance your new one. For the love of yourself, stop sit and wait for your “perfect” guy to find you. Maybe you need to consider dropping your pride and go out to find him. Or is it that our “perfect” guy DID find us but we were so caught up with our past relationships’ baggage and we lost him?
To conclude, stop pointing fingers or complain about the problems, instead spend some time to think about them. Ask yourself these questions, where did they start from? Am I the root of the problem? Then when you have found the source of the problem be the solution.
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Often times both men and women don't give the impression that we want to be truly loved for who we really are. We go in search of "the partner of our dreams" The question is do you have the qualities to be the partner of someone else' s dream. Women typically flaunt their body, too many women expose so much they leave nothing to the imagination. While men usually use for example their cars to attract us women. The problem is men and women cast out their baits to reel in the opposite sex, but the wrong baits are being used.
If you want to be loved for who you are as a person you must first consider stripping yourself of the excessive sex appeal and cut back greatly on using material things to attract the opposite sex. Let your personality and character outshine everything else. After all if the situation should arrive and you loose your sex appeal and the material things go up in flames, it would be very nice to have those you love still there by your side no matter what.
We need to put all our "sides" out there. The exciting and fun you, and the jealous must have things our way side too. It's my personal belief that we lie when we purposefully hold some sides of us because we believe it is not attractive to the opposite sex. As humans it is natural that some sides of us only comes out when we are in specific situations, as such naturally all our sides won't come out all at once. So date as much as possible, at different places, different activities etc. so that we can learn a lot about each other before getting too serious. It would be sad, that after a month of being married you find out that your spouse will flip a table over because he or she lost a game you two were playing. So spread the activities you do together in as many situations as possible, it will only do your future relationship together good. If you lie during dating you are setting yourself up to not being truly loved because your partner is not loving the true you.