Often times both men and women don't give the impression that we want to be truly loved for who we really are. We go in search of "the partner of our dreams" The question is do you have the qualities to be the partner of someone else' s dream. Women typically flaunt their body, too many women expose so much they leave nothing to the imagination. While men usually use for example their cars to attract us women. The problem is men and women cast out their baits to reel in the opposite sex, but the wrong baits are being used.
If you want to be loved for who you are as a person you must first consider stripping yourself of the excessive sex appeal and cut back greatly on using material things to attract the opposite sex. Let your personality and character outshine everything else. After all if the situation should arrive and you loose your sex appeal and the material things go up in flames, it would be very nice to have those you love still there by your side no matter what.
We need to put all our "sides" out there. The exciting and fun you, and the jealous must have things our way side too. It's my personal belief that we lie when we purposefully hold some sides of us because we believe it is not attractive to the opposite sex. As humans it is natural that some sides of us only comes out when we are in specific situations, as such naturally all our sides won't come out all at once. So date as much as possible, at different places, different activities etc. so that we can learn a lot about each other before getting too serious. It would be sad, that after a month of being married you find out that your spouse will flip a table over because he or she lost a game you two were playing. So spread the activities you do together in as many situations as possible, it will only do your future relationship together good. If you lie during dating you are setting yourself up to not being truly loved because your partner is not loving the true you.