I see a lot of photos going around my Facebook news feed; they are on the subject of being single on Valentine’s Day. They are meant for laughs, but none I found funny. Here is what I have to share about being single on Valentine’s Day; your relationship status doesn’t define you; your identity is not your relationship status.
Embrace and Love Being Single
There are wonderful benefits when you’re single. No need to fight over the remote control, you can be as messy or as clean as you wish in your living space, you can stay out as long as you wish, spend your money how and on what you want etc. Yes, there is a strong message you receive from couples; but remember, what you see is not always the true reflection of their story. Don’t be fooled by the hype, that your “coupled” friends are happy because they are paired off. I know many single happy people, but we don’t recognize this because it is simple just not “fashionable” so, it is not highlighted in political discourse or the media.
Don’t Get Overwhelmed by Emotions
Around this time a lot of romance is in the air. The “need” to find your true love has heightened; but be patient, you’ll find him/her someday. There are plenty more Valentine’s Day ahead, and lots of potential mates. Until you two meet, spend the time to work on the person you are. Define your values clearly and what you want/expect from a relationship, and how you will contribute to it being the best.
Be Your Own Valentine
Self-love is very important; you must first be able to love yourself before you can truly love someone else. As you go about your everyday life, this “love season” will have you salivating for chocolate; teddy bears etc. instead of going around with the feeling of longing for something off the shelf - treat yourself, splurge and buy something “you absolutely must have.” Deprivation is not the order of the day.
What Happens on the 15th?
Life goes back to normal. Majority of the lovers who went down memory lane, and gifted each other go back to being too busy, unromantic and will only wait till next year to buy another “sweet gift.” The day is only 24 hours, like everything else, it too shall pass.